Dear readers, I apologise for not broadcasting over the last few weeks. But I have a valid excuse for it. I broke my leg and the thing is, I needed surgery so now I am bionic with upgraded titanium parts. I just want to thank everyone for helping me out. So I would like to welcome you all to another week of According to Truong. For this week special I would like to talk about communication.
So over the past months you' have been reading my blog and acted upon it. That's wonderful news, congratulations you have a beautiful girlfriend now, Hold on a minute, the girl is way out of your league so your punching way above your weight. Your becoming complacent and your confidence has gone through the roof. Your a average guy so you think you can always do better. Let me just stop you right there, you'll break a leg and realise you can't walk away from what matters most in a relationship.
Apologising, I know men aren't very good at talking and resolving issues so I will guide you through the whole process where your beloved will feel special and you'll get a whole lot of loving when the process of all over.
Lets go through a typical scenario here, your day is going fine the sun is shining, your car is polished and your all ready to take your lady out. But hang on, your quarrelling, over some or all of the evils of a relationship, IE jealousy, mistrust, and anger. Since your the man, you put on your deep and powerful voice and bark at your girlfriend. Spilling out a whole bean stalk of hurtful green, blue, and purple beans. Now your a real Jack. Gee that felt good, but was it good for your relationship? Are these magic beans which will help your relationship grow, or will it lead you to the jealousy bearded giant, or the anger troll, and the distrustful leprechaun.
You might say, sure we argue all the time but a relationship is about love and understanding you can't go out with someone who you argue with. I know men have a relative scale when it comes to anger but if your an extreme case you seriously need to work on how you manage this, if not I am sorry to say this, your only friend will be the lonely man on the moon. And you only get to see this man a few times a year. Lets try to avoid that hey.
Rule No 1.
Its has happen what do i do Truong? Firstly, no matter what apologise as soon as possible, don't leave it more than 3 days before you swallow your pride because women don't like to wait a long time. They will hate it if you don't realise your mistake quickly. So time is of importance here.
Rule No 2.
No matter what they say, a gift to say your sorry is extremely important depending on the severity of the mistake. Lets say, it was a small mistake and you apologise quickly less than 24hours, flowers will be adequate, but if it has taken you over 3 days, it will have to cost you flowers, chocolates, perfume, plus an expensive dinner probably in a ethnic restaurant maybe. So it's best to realise your mistake and show remorse.
Rule No 3.
You must sit down and be prepared to listen to everything she has to say, and agree with them all. This is going to take at least 2 hours so don't drink or eat before hand because you don't want to be going to the bathroom in this time. You need to realise she's going to explode in words from the bottom of her soul and you need to say yes to everything.
The final rule, No 4.
Always make a resolution and stick with it. You need to understand that a girl wants to be assure you have learnt something from your major argument and make reparations for it not to occur again. For example you need to work out a way to control your temper and go through the steps with her to insure that it won't happen again.
Phew, yup wipe that sweat from your brow because communication is very difficult between a man and a woman but if you can communicate properly you will be able to keep that relationship on the right tracks and will be able to sail through the most rough seas that are out to swallow you up.
But the old man always thought of her as feminine and as something that gave or withheld great favors, and if she did wild or wicked things it was because she could not help them. The moon affects her as it does a woman, he thought. The Old Man and the Sea
So you might be asking what I have been doing over the last few weeks. Well I have had so much time to reflect on life. The most important lesson I have learnt from this period is how to listen to the advice of others. Secondly, life is short but you must not rush important things especially marriage. Marriage must not be rush because planning a wedding is a big task but remember it's not a business contract but a contract of love. To me love is getting a nice hot meal once in a while, or a going out for a nice drive, and some kissing time. But the deep side of love is knowing someone out there is thinking of you, is worried about you and wants to be with you.
That's enough sensitive talk for one blog session lets see what is on offer this weekend in Sydney.
At the moment, winter is ending and spring is just about to be blossom. Therefore, a man must know there will be 4 seasons in one day. If you are keen on doing an outdoor pursuit do so in the morning when the wind will be calm. Maybe a trip to the various outdoor markets in Sydney and breakfast. I do feel like a nice bacon and egg roll this week. If your going to sleep in, then be prepared for a unpredictable weather so go for a nice drive up the coast to Newcastle.
If a drive is not for you, how about watching our favourite action heroes of the 1990's in the movie the Expendables. But if it's the girls turn to choose a movie, I am sorry to say this but you better head to One of the Dendy cinemas, most likely the one at Circular Quay. Sorry guys you just have to go.
Finally, I would like to thank you everyone for your patience and waiting for this blog, I hope you all have a great weekend.